There is Only 1 Door....

I made a shocking discovery over the past couple of days....would you like to know what it is??? OF COURSE I AM GOING TO TELL YOU! (like I wouldn't)

I have posted a few things over the past few weeks, some by choice, some by force (or multiple request that sounded a lot like people in the back seat of a car on a long road trip repeating, "Are we there yet?) to the requester, you know I mean that with love and appreciation for you making me write about it....WINK. Anyway, I have posted a few things lately. Most of which have to do with happiness. The entire purpose of everything I post is to help and never burden which is why I leave the reason for my posts out...ANYWAY, (TANGENT I KNOW)

So, with all of that said, I made a shocking discovery which helped me tremendously and will hopefully help you.. The discovery has become my 2nd Law...

Law 2: "Access to the happiness you define can only be achieved by the side of the door you choose"

Here is a brief explanation.....
With the things that are going in my life, (NONE OF WHICH ARE LIFE THREATENING) I found myself in need of a break, or a light, or a window (not to jump out of) but a window of opportunity to make a plan, and apply it. Even after applying my 1st Law which is to define my own happiness, I still found myself taking punch after punch after punch which slightly brought me down. I had to ask myself a tough question, "Which side of the door was I On?"

Here are the meat and potatoes....
You can only be on one side of the door, and that door will inevitably open and shut, it is the door's only job in life, to Open and Close. With every situation, you must make a choice of which side of the door you choose to stand on. On one side, your door is closing, and you cannot proceed any further. The only visions you have are the memories behind you. There is no growth, there are no new goals to set, you have gone as far as you can go. On the other side, that same door is opening, and you suddenly have limitless opportunity. Be as happy as you want, as successful as you want, as loving as you want, you have the choice, you hold the keys, you are your own key master!

So with all of that said, I choose for my door to be open, it is my perception of choice. The things that seemed so big when they were in front of what I perceived as a closed door, have become much smaller when the perception of my door changed. They are now in the boundless field of my uncharted Open Door, and even though they still exist, they are not blocking the option to make the choices that lead to happiness!

1st Law Of Happiness...

Happiness cannot be achieved if you bypass the FIRST LAW! The first law goes like this...

LAW 1: "THERE IS NO WAY TO ACHIEVE HAPPINESS WITHOUT FIRST TAKING THE TIME TO DEFINE IT FOR YOURSELF"

So many times people tell me they are not happy. When they tell me they are unhappy, the first question I ask is, "Well what makes you happy?" Strange enough, they usually have trouble giving me THEIR definition of happiness. So I decided to try the exercise myself....WHAT MAKES ME HAPPY? Funny enough, I found myself having the same problem they were having. WHAT???? Then I asked, "How on earth will I ever know when I am happy?" Really?

When I feel happy, is that based on what SHOULD make people happy, or am I truly happy? The first law of happiness has really helped me and I am very glad I took the time to address it. I realize the easiest thing to do is keep the people in my life, and do the things that fit MY definition of happiness. IT WORKS!

Is this the century old cure to end all sadness, depression, anger, and bad days, absolutely not. However, I will tell you this, the more you hang around things that fit your definition, the better odds you have in Achieving Your Own Happiness...Try it.....Let me know!

AM vs. will

Make your choice to maximize your life today, not only today, but this hour, not only this hour but this minunte, not only this minute but this second, because I AM IS GUARANTEED, "I will when" is not....

What appears to be tomorrow today, will really just be your present when it arrives. Be very careful putting things off for tomorrow as tomorrow never really comes. If you need something, make a plan to get it now, if something is not right in your life, find a way to Fix it now, if you have goals, find a way to achieve them now...These are the people that will always be happy, successfull, and will not look back on their lives with regrets, because they choose....NOW!